Words and their meanings have the power to hurt us immensely. Although physically this may seem untrue, mentally and emotionally, words can hurt us. While individuals cannot directly be hurt physically by words, some words, if communicated in certain ways, can create negative connotations and mentally hurt someone immensely. I have experienced first hand how words can hurt, disproving this popular saying through the use of negative interpersonal communication, including Lying, Polarisation and Downward talk. Words communicated in these ways towards individuals will most likely be consumed negatively and thus create sadness and pain which can produce serious flow on effects such as depression, anxiety, anorexia and other illnesses detrimental to physical and mental health.
Lying can be defined as making an untrue statement with intent to deceive. Lying is unfortunately a very widespread form of communication, used to impress or deceive individuals and groups to believe something to either be true or untrue. There has been many instances within my personal life whereby I have experienced being lied to, and also lying myself, both with negative flow on effects that emotionally hurt both myself and those who I had lied to. When I was six years old I drew on the newly painted wall of my parents new house. When my little brother and I were confronted and asked who it was that had drawn on the wall. I lied to my father and told him it was my brother. My father then proceeded to punish my brother by sending him to bed early and taking away his favourite toy. Due to the young age of my brother he lacked in basic communication skills and thus, was unable to communicate with my father to tell him I was the one who drew on the wall, not him. The lie in the interpersonal communication between my father and I, caused me to feel guilt and pain when I saw someone else being punished for what I had done, especially because of their inability to use the same interpersonal communication I had used, only to tell the truth. Inevitably when I communicated the truth with my father, he was disappointed and this caused short-term emotional pain to all parties involved. Another example of an experience I have witnessed whereby lying has hurt someone greatly was when my friends partner had lied to them about their faithfulness. We were at a party together and after a small time apart, we starting hearing talk that my friends partner had kissed someone else. We promptly found them and asked whether or not the allegations were true. They had lied and said that nothing happened. The night ended and my friend and their partner carried on as normal. After a few months the truth arose and the partner had confessed about kissing someone else. My friend was extremely hurt by this, especially due to the fact that he was initially lied too. His sadness took a very long time to subside and after a while, he was diagnosed with adjustment disorder with depressed mood and anxiety. This shows how seriously words, and the way they are communicated can hurt.
Polarization can be defined as once neutral individuals taking sides and increasingly moving toward the (more…)